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Summer is in full swing! Tis’ the season of gatherings; graduation parties, camping, barbeques, bonfires, beach days, fireworks and much more. Summer and sunshine are what we’ve all been waiting for! Encompassed in these gatherings of long days, sunsets and summer nights is alcohol being the base of many bonding experiences. So, what do you do when you have made a choice to remain alcohol free?
Be honest about any challenges.
If you aren’t able to be around your usual social gatherings at this point in your recovery, that’s OK! You do not have to say yes to every occasion. Let your family and friends know your feelings and where you are in your recovery. Surround yourself with supportive people that will understand where you are coming from and vocalize your needs during these times. Be aware not to isolate yourself. If saying no means staying home alone all the time, have an alternative so you remain social and surrounded by support. Attend local meetings, sober clubs, joining a recovery support group that includes gatherings, outings and social events.
Have a plan in place to help ease anticipation.
When an invite does surface, and you are considering attending, come up with a plan. Have a friend or family member be your recovery buddy and attend with you. Look up good recipes for “mocktails” and create a few nonalcoholic refreshments that can be served and bring them to your gathering.
Be the Host.
If going to other social gatherings just feels like too much right now, consider hosting your own. Creating your own atmosphere and taking control of your environment brings empowerment and can put your mind at ease. Make those mocktails, throw on some music, games, a fire; ask your family, friends and recovery community to bring some food and enjoy the summer together.
Remember that recovery is a process, as will be the adjustments to social life events. This journey is for you to live life to the fullest while finding what you enjoy. For some in early recovery, this is the hardest hurdle to be back around the atmosphere where it feels the world stayed the same and you are the only one that has changed. Self-care is essential, be sure to create and carry out boundaries. Leave a situation should it become too stressful. As I like to say, if it hurts more than it helps, then it’s not for you. Rest assured the recovery community is vast and wide. Memories are to be made and cherished together.
For anyone in need of support and local resources: find us on Facebook at our new page PCO- Plymouth County Outreach or reach out to plymouthcountyoutreach.org
