“I don’t know what to do.” “I’m in a rut.” “I feel stuck.” If this is something that you are feeling right now, I want you to know that you are not alone.
When nothing exciting is happening and I can’t take any steps forward and change things, I get frustrated and depressed… Given that I have been living in “Groundhogs Day” for five months now, I feel stuck almost daily. I have a strong feeling I cannot be the only one feeling this way. So, I made a list of ten things that help me when I am feeling “stuck”.
10 Things To Do To Get “Unstuck”
1. Feeling stuck is a sign that it’s time for change.
Changes shake-up my patterns, create new energy and change my outlook on life. When I feel stuck, this simply means that something isn’t working for me anymore. Whether it’s my job, my relationship, my house, my circle of friends or my hobbies… if I am not excited about them anymore, it’s probably time to finally do something to change it.
2. Even the tiniest possible step is progress.
I might think that there is nothing substantial I can do. But that is not true. Small things become big things. When I focus on these small steps, I realize they are wonderful events on their own, and I am better able to simply enjoy them.
There is no better time than now. I started by making a list of tiny ways I could get closer to my goal, then picked one and started immediately.
3. You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
The thing with feeling stuck is that sometimes I don’t know what I need to get unstuck or what I want from life in general. But this “numbness” and “emptiness” that I feel (temporarily!) should not stop me from making changes.
Even if I can’t see or imagine the end result and don’t know where it is exactly that I am going, it is crucial to just start moving. I try new things, meet new people, buy new clothes – anything that can help me figure out what it is that I want and how to get it.
4. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
Unpleasant truth. If I am just sitting around and waiting for something or someone to come into my life and suddenly change it for the better, I won’t get very far. I am the only one who can really make a difference.
5. New beginnings can feel like endings.
I may not always see the opportunities that are coming my way, so these endings can make me sad or disappointed. I do my best to view them, instead, as new beginnings. This is a new chapter in my life, my chance to change my life.
6. Beautiful things happen when you clear your life of all the negativity.
Negativity often comes hand in hand with feeling stuck. So, I do my best to focus on removing toxicity from my life. And I start with surrounding myself with positive people and getting rid of the negative ones.
7. Believe what your heart tells you, not what others say.
I Ask myself– am I living someone else’s life? Are other people influencing my every decision? Then I remind myself that this is MY life.
- I want to have fun and experiment; discover what it is that I like and care about.
- Spend time with myself. Being alone isn’t a bad thing, it’s an investment in my self-awareness.
- Set boundaries. People should respect my choices and my individuality.
- Question my beliefs.
- Take a step back and think about the bigger picture.
8. Stop overthinking.
Whatever happens, happens. I constantly remind myself to “just relax.” I cannot control everything, so I had to learn to just let go of some things. I have found that more often than not I may be feeling stuck because I am always in my own head, worrying and obsessing.
9. If it’s meant to be, it will happen at the right time, at the right place, for the right reasons.
Even though I am the one who is responsible for making a change in my life, I need to stay open-minded about how to do it and the timing that it may happen. When I stick to a specific way and continue to fail, it’s probably because it just wasn’t meant for me. I can try something else. And accept that things happen in a different order than the one I had planned.
10. My best is yet to come.
“There is a reason the windshield is larger than the rearview mirror. Where I am headed is more important than what I left behind.”
Don’t look back. I am not going that way. I must keep moving forward. Good things CAN and ARE going to happen.